This is a collaborative post.
Sometimes in life, your romantic relationship might feel like it’s been run aground. In times like this, it may be all too easy to throw the towel in and give up on something you’ve spent months or years cultivating. ‘How can I leave?’, ‘what are the five grounds for divorce?’, ‘how can we stay civil for the children?’ – if this sounds like you, click the link for more info. Otherwise, read on to find ways to potentially save your relationship, or at least hopefully allow you to remain friends.
One of the well-known keys to maintaining any kind of relationship is to listen to each other. Rather than simply hearing the words and waiting to respond, genuinely listen and think about what your partner is saying. Being heard and validated can make a person more open to a connection.
Getting comfortable with your partner can be a good thing – up until you start taking each other for granted. Showing appreciation for the things they do can make a big difference. If your partner has cooked dinner, express your gratitude, and offer a compliment. If they’ve sorted out the problem on your car, let them know how much it means to you. They may also start reciprocating this gratitude, allowing you both to feel warmer about the other again.
Do Something New
Over time, any activity can become monotonous. You may have fallen into a routine together and a lull has formed. By trying something new together you will be potentially forging a new bond. It doesn’t have to be something strenuous, although if that’s what you’re both into then it can’t hurt. Simply doing something neither of you have done before can bring back some excitement.
Tackle a Problem
Doing something together that involves you working as a team can also be a good way to remind you both of what attracted you in the first place. Perhaps you like his ability to plan, or the way she makes you laugh, even in stressful situations.
Go on Dates
All too often, couples stop going on dates. The related time spent making yourself look your best to impress that person also goes down the drain. Instead, start going for those meals out or trips to the bowling alley again. You can help your relationship feel new and exciting, plus show each other that you do still want to be that fun, beautiful person they initially fell in love with.
Making small changes, or simply trying out new ideas together can be a means to which you bring back that spark. Sometimes, it may still be best to part and remain friends, or at least on civil terms, however, that would be down to both you and your partner to decide.